10th January 2012 , Posted by Darren Lim
“Precious Moments”
Precious Moments
After 3 kids and with the eldest already 7, I’m finally blogging my life as dad! Or rather, finally have the time to blog about fatherhood, is this late or what? Anyway, better late than never! And the first thing I thought I’d write about would be on “ Precious Moments” because that was what the past 7 years have been filled with; though these moments were not blogged, they were definitely stored deeply in my heart (and fortunately some on DVD too — you can never get them back again!)
The very first “Precious Moment”
I remember when Evelyn woke me up that ‘fateful’ morning at 5 am, telling me she was yearning for fried egg with Nasi Lemak , I immediately suspected that she was pregnant! She had been rejecting vegetables and requesting for deep fried food during that period before this episode and that was so unlike her to do something that unhealthy. (Bear in mind Evelyn sleeps at 9pm, exercises 3 times a week, mostly in the morning, eats healthy, drinks nothing else but plain water!)
So I guess I had it easy guessing that something was “amiss”, but still when I received the phone call from her, the reality of my wife telling me I was to be a father soon totally knocked me over—-butterflies were flying in my tummy , I had dizzy spells and I almost tripped over the escalator! After I got into the car and took a deep breath, I thought I was composed, but when I reversed the car I almost hit someone!
Jealous moments too…..
I’m sure I’m not the only father-to-be with such stories to tell, it is “THE” moment that marks our transition from Boy to Man. The whole responsibility and burden on my shoulder felt a ton heavier (or was it my inflated ego at work? We hadn’t planned for a baby so soon but was blessed with one during the honeymoon, so it has to do with my “marksmanship” somehow right!?)
Even holding the ultrasound photo taken of baby was a pleasure in itself, the joy indescribable. But at the same time, reality felt surreal and all that talking to baby, playing Mozart music to baby, felt really like just motions that any well-meaning dad must do — there wasn’t really much connection with Her (Kristen) made yet; in fact sometimes I’d get intensely jealous when Evelyn said she felt baby kicking and when I put my hands on her tummy, I didn’t get any movements!
“Unexpected” moment
9 and half months of waiting …. waiting and waiting…… And finally 01 Jan 2005, 12 midnight my precious bundle of joy arrived al naturel (no epidural, no C-sec , so we didn’t pick the timing)! Not one minute earlier, not one minute later but exactly at 0000hr! Not only was her birth-timing significant because she was the first baby of the year, it was also a moment in the history of Singapore’s media industry because the 2 major media companies then, were merged at that precise moment. Being employees, then, of the acquired company, there were ramifications and changes that we had to deal with (eg Evelyn’s retrenchment, etc) but for me, at that moment, all that didn’t seem important at all. Kristen’s arrival heralded a new beginning and a new chapter in my life – I have become a FATHER!
Posted on : January 10, 2012
Filed under : Planning For Baby
3 Comments
joseph ling
January 10th, 2012 at 6:32 am
Love your sharing on Precious Moments. Please continue to share!
Benjamin Heng
January 10th, 2012 at 10:21 am
Welcome bro!
Jackie L
January 10th, 2012 at 10:41 am
Bro. Hope you still remember me… Your co actor in Delivering Suzy.
Your real life story touches my heart.
I really believe that you will do great with your family.
Great blessing is with you and your family.
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